Emotional Intelligence

Read the book by Daniel Goleman and this has turned out to be one of the most insightful readings for two distinct reasons:

- Firstly, the very beginning of the book addresses a perennial question I had been mulling over for long.

Philosophical theories have for ages praised self-control; not letting emotions take over, yet I always thought that without passion and emotional attachment to a goal, it makes it hard for one to work toward achieving something in life. 

This book, however, describes emotional intelligence as the ability to identify one's feelings and also to control them and create a positive emotion that helps drive constructive action. It's interpretation of self control is  not suppressing emotions, but managing emotions to make them productive.


- Secondly, this book identifies the same managing emotions to create positivity as the key to success: A positive attitude, with minimal emotional impact on productivity is critical. Further perceiving people and their emotions positively, managing both verbal and non-verbal communications and using effective negotiations go a long way. 

Apart from the above, the book also talks a lot about the importance of emotional intelligence in children's education, which in itself is an entire pool of thoughts about the impact emotional learning can have on the character and developments of nations.

Sometimes we are entirely unaware of some conflicts within us!!

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

Pighlay neelam sa behta hua yeh samaan
Neeli neeli si khamoshiyaan
Na kahin hai zameen 
Na kahin aasmaan 
Sarsaraati huyi tehniyaan, pattiyaan 
Keh rahi hain ki bas ek tum ho yahaan 
Sirf main hoon meri saansein hain aur meri dhadkanein 
Aisi gehraiyaan 
Aisi tanhaiyaan 
Aur main sirf main 
Apne honay pe mujhko yaqeen aa gaya
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Yeh jo gehre sannate hain 
Waqt ne sabko hi baante hain 
Thoda ghum hai sabka qissa 
Thodi dhoop hai sabka hissa 
Aankh teri bekaar hi nam hai 
Har pal ek naya mausam hai 
Kyun tu aise pal khota hai 
Dil aakhir tu kyun rota hai
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Dilon mein tum apni Betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho Toh zinda ho tum 
Nazar mein khwabon ki Bijliyan leke chal rahe ho Toh zinda ho tum 
Hawa ke jhokon ke jaise Aazad rehna sikho 
Tum ek dariya ke jaise Lehron mein behna sikho 
Har ek lamhe se tum milo Khole apni bhaayein 
Har ek pal ek naya samha Dekhen yeh nigahaein 
Jo apni aankhon mein Hairaniyan leke chal rahe ho Toh zinda ho tum 
Dilon mein tum apni Betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho Toh zinda ho tum
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- ZNMD